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Why Smart People Don't Live What They Know

Knowledge is power. Information is king. Or is it? If you are reading this then you have access to virtually any piece of information you desire. Interested in knowing how to make balloon animals, stage your home to sell, build a rocket? The internet is there for you.

Many people, myself included, use the internet to find ways to enhance the experience they are having in their body, whether that means treating a disease or toning one’s muscles. My guess is that you have spent hours doing the same, and if not on the internet, than by reading books or reaching out to friends or paying to visit a medical professional.

If you have applied the knowledge you’ve gained and are living the experience you want to be living in the one body God gave you…ROCK ON! Keep up the great work!

If not, keep reading…

Most of us have tried diets, exercise programs, or supplements that have worked, for a period of time. We feel better, perhaps hit a health goal, become more optimistic about our future health and then - we “upper-limit”. We take on more at work, a family member becomes ill, we move, whatever. We get distracted, our commitment wanes and we veer off the growth-path. Something comes that throws us off. We feel frustrated, alone, and hopeless.

Later, you begin to question the information. Maybe you weren’t acquiring the right knowledge? You try something different, say Weight Watchers. And it’s working! You’re once again motivated and you say to yourself that you’re on your way to ever-improving health!

But then, the program ends, the self-sabotage sets back in, and you’re back to where you began...or maybe even worse. Sound familiar?

Why was my success not sustainable? Am I just inherently inconsistent or lacking in discipline? Am I just not motivated enough or goal-oriented enough? Why do I continue to fail when it comes to matters of my health?



Habit change experts and people who have experienced transformation in how they feel agree, the only way is to automate new habits.

To continue with the weight example, we know that snacking is a major contributor to weight gain. And speaking as a former snacker, it is really hard to fight the temptation. The important thing is when you feel the urge to reach for a cookie that you pause, take a breath and notice:

  • What time is it?

  • Where am I?

  • Who am I with?

  • What did I just do?

  • What is the current state of my emotions?

Those five questions will determine the trigger of the habit of reaching for the cookie(s).


Perhaps it’s every afternoon around 2pm (time trigger) that you grab a cookie,

  • or when you chat with your sweet co-worker, Lila (person trigger),

  • or when you visit the Office of Student Life (place trigger),

  • or after you pour yourself a cup of coffee (preceding action trigger),

  • or when you feel sad (emotional trigger).

Let’s say it’s the feeling of sadness. In order to confirm that the cookie is really what you need to satisfy your urge, get curious and play with replacing the cookie with another reward - like a bowl of fruit or cup of tea. Is the cookie urge gone? If not, experiment with a completely unrelated reward. Go for a walk. Grab your phone and call a friend. Whatever you do, keep running small tests until you find the new reward that satisfies your true need.

Now, let’s say you realize that your need for the cookie diminishes as you walk outside and go visit someone in a different building. Wonderful! It’s time to write down your one sentence plan! “Each time I feel sad (trigger), I will visit someone in a different building (ritual), because it provides me with community and connectivity (reward).”

What’s missing is not the cookie, it’s feeling companionship. Once you know this, you can design daily rituals that enhance your social life!


  • How do I desire to feel and live in my body?

  • What poor habits do I currently have that keep me from having the experience of health and happiness that I desire?

  • What is the real urge? Greater connection? Nourishing food? Deeper rest?

  • What new ritual could I automate, or make part of my daily life?

  • How can I design my environment to make this new ritual so easy I can’t NOT do it?!


The compound effect of small shifts overtime is HUGE. Focusing on doing good enough to earn a B- with your new rituals is what will ensure they will take root. By taking super small steps each day the highest version of yourself will emerge more and more.


We are what we repeatedly do. The way we live day in and day out is who we are and that has a huge impact on our ability to hear and live into our call, our passion for and purpose in life. Your ability to experience more interconnectivity, more meaning and joy and awake living, largely depends upon your identity. And your identity can only transform through the transformation of your daily lifestyle rituals.

If you don’t align the ritual of who you want to become into your day then you will meet roadblocks. You’ll backslide. You’ll lose hope as you hit the massive face of resistance to change that always exists. You’ll be unable to step into who God is calling you to be and who you really want to become. You’ll remain more or less who you are already are comfortable with being.

What’s the problem with that? The problem is that you’re stuck. The problem is that’s not how we journey down our personal growth paths.



And taking steps along your personal growth-path doesn’t just move you forward, it expands you. Even the potential of that releases the expansive emotion of hope! We want more for ourselves. We want to be that which we have not yet become. It’s part of our divine birthright. I know for me that as my daily rituals have shifted, my biochemistry has also shifted. Your mental pathways realign. You recalibrate to a better way of being. And then...there is a backward pull of who you used to be, of the old, smaller self.

If I didn’t have support around better and better versions of me emerging, or be in community with others on their own personal growth-paths, I would be doomed to the backward pull.

In order to grow more fully into who God is calling us to be we need support and encouragement from others who get it, who are growing, and hopefully even others who are living with greater integrity with their daily rituals than we are.

Otherwise, progress is 10x harder. And sustainable success just won’t happen.

So, what rituals do you need to develop to become the person you want to become? (Who, conveniently, is the same person the world needs you to become!)


Go ahead right now and reflect: do you have the rituals of the person you want to become? Because if you don’t, then you won’t become that person. Sit with that for a moment, if you don’t have those rituals it’s not going to happen. Right?

Begin to look at this in terms of your body. Do you have the day-to-day body rituals of the person that you desire to become? Dive deep into how you want to feel, how you want to look, what you want to crave, how you want to sleep. For example, if your mind is all over the place and you’re having a hard time concentrating or being productive, ask yourself, what rituals would an organized, clear-headed person have?

Do you have those rituals? Chances are, no. Otherwise you’d be experiencing the reality of the effects of the rituals that engender clarity of mind. You’d have the ritual of meditating everyday and going to bed on time. You would adhere to daily rituals around nurturing your body with the right amount of the right food at the right time each day. And while it might not be executed with perfection, it would be close enough, embedded enough in your day-to-day to get the desired results.

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