Has there ever been a time when you second guessed your ability to accomplish something?
Are there specific times you start questioning if you’re worthy enough?
You are not alone!
Last week, I was right there in the trenches with you. I had started a new business and blog to share my passion of ministry, makeup & motherhood. I had been going live for about 4 months sharing my thoughts and little tips.
Then, all of a sudden, I could not come up with a topic for my weekly broadcast. Not only was I having a block on what to share, I was completely in my head. Telling myself that, "No one wants to hear what I have to say!" and "Who was I to think anyone wanted these little tips anyway?"
I took my pity party of one to my husband to see if he wanted to join (misery loves company, right?). I shared my doubts & worries about if I could even do this. I shared that I didn’t know if anyone had even looked at my blog, and then he stopped me.
He said, "maybe you need to step back from this."
I was so upset. I thought, not even my husband understands & he even thinks I should quit. But that’s not what he meant. He meant to step back & observe & think & then - go back at it. Oh!
What do you do to help yourself get out of a rut?
Many times I just ignore it or hide. I know, not good, but honest, right? When it’s something that really is bothering me, I find myself in the Bible looking for a nugget to point me in the right direction. So after we went away for the weekend I came back to a devotional I hadn’t touched in a few days. I needed to catch up! I am currently reading100 Days to Brave by Annie F. Downs. On day 37 the verses stood out to me.
God can do anything, you know - far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! God does it not by pushing us around but by working within us, God's Spirit deeply & gently within us. - Ephesisians 3:20 MSG
I love the thought that God isn’t limited by us! The Almighty can do more than we could ever even dream of! And God’s not just pushing us around & pushing all the buttons to make us do whatever; The Spirit is working inside us. My favorite is how the Spirit is described “deeply & gently.” Yes! That’s what I need - a deep & gentle nudge to continue & do the work I have been called to do.
I want to share with you 5 steps to help you overcome this thought process of not being enough, so you can move past the emotions and on to accomplishing the dreams! But first, I suggest you take my husband’s advice & step back from the situation. Find a way to remove yourself, so you can see the bigger picture. Now, let’s dig into the 5 steps:
1. Know that we are lying to ourselves to protect us from our fears!
When we say we are not worthy of accomplishing something we are simply saying, we are going to give into the fears we have. Whether that’s a fear of failure, a fear of looking or sounding dumb or even a fear of success and what we’ll do with it. Every time you hear yourself questioning “Am I enough?” recognize that as a reaction to fear. An excuse to run the opposite direction from your goal.
2. We need to give ourselves grace!
Sometimes we mess up, but we are so hard on ourselves and forget that we deserve grace too. It seems that we are good at offering grace & forgiveness to others far more than we are to ourselves. We are just as worthy of that peace as the next person, but we have such high expectations that we never get there. Recently, I was talking with my cousin about how we hold such high expectations for ourselves & those that are closest to us that we find ourselves stuck in disappointment rather than moving into grace & forgiveness.
3. “Let it go. Let it gooooo!”
Yes the movie teaches us so much! We need to let go of the fear and the idea that we aren’t enough.
Your slate is clean!
So, let’s do something about it!
4. Do something creative or helpful to see yourself accomplish your goal or dream.
Some like to run to clear their mind or get energized. Others like to do something creative with their hands or to write. My favorite thing at this point is to meditate (pray) or visualize what it would look like to accomplish my goal or dream. So, when I was worried about going live & not having anything to say, I visualized what it would look like if I was talking & others were present and responding. (Guess what? It worked!)
5. Do it!
You’ve done all the steps, so now it’s time to hit go and just do it! None of us are perfect and if we continually wait for everything to perfectly line up we’ll never move forward. Movement forward creates momentum and the more we do the more we accomplish. Finally, one day we look back and realize that we did it! Sometimes we even forget the emotions we were having and get soaked up in the movement. Showing up, doing it is sometimes the very thing we need to stop second guessing ourselves and to make progress.
You are worthy. You can accomplish the goals and dreams you have, but we all get caught in this mind set of worrying if we are enough to get it done. The answer is yes. You were “wonderfully & fearfully made.” No mistakes were made when you were given the gifts you were given. Do we need to exercise our confidence muscles to get out there & use those gifts sometimes? Heck yea! But I promise, the next time will be easier. And the time after that will be even easier!
So dream big & know you are enough!
Jaimie Shires, Founder of Fresh From the Shire www.freshfromtheshire.com
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